Today in Child Rearing
My kid pooped all over me and my boba wrap - moments after I put her in it (and after I tied the most perfect wrap ever - snug, but not too constricting)
I ate cold, leftover spaghetti straight from the container for lunch, with Ellie draped over my shoulder (because it’s the only way she wouldn’t scream). Because of this positioning, I totally dropped food on her.
It’s 3pm and I’m still wearing my pajamas - although baby has changed outfits three times (for reasons, see above)
I thought it’d be a good time to introduce a pacifier, to - you know - pacify her, but instead, she started to gag/choke on it.
In spite of these things, I really shouldn’t complain. I mean, I was able to brush my teeth and eat lunch (which is more than I can do some days) - and I get to hang out with her all day, so I am trying to appreciate these moments. What’s that saying? The days are long, but the years are short?
This is why I can’t be all “Let It Go” and allow the husband to fill in and tackle certain things.
Our neighbor had a baby this weekend and I asked Jeff to stop and pick up a card on his way to work so we could throw a gift certificate to a local pizza place in it - with three kids under 10, I figured it’d be appreciated (and offer her/her husband a much needed break from cooking!).
I think my exact words were “Could you pick up some sort of congrats on your baby card”?
This is what he came back with.
It’s been awhile since I’ve posted. Blame sheer laziness, lack of exciting things going on in my life (every day is just a combination of work, grow a baby, nap, repeat), and needing to do adult things (our house has been under construction for the last month - between having rooms painted, hardwood floors refinished and our walkway torn out/replaced with new masonry). But whatever - I’m good! Life is good!
Here are some baby/life updates:
- My baby shower was held last weekend and it was great. (Although, please do not make a first time mom shout out the gifts she received to keep the guests entertained as they’re checking off their bingo cards, since she’ll have no idea what the proper name of the item is. “Oh, thanks for the thing that goes over your shoulder so baby doesn’t spit on your - ah, yes, burp cloth! thanks!”)
- Baby and I were totally spoiled and I swear, she’ll need at least three outfit changes a day to use all the clothes she received. I now need to figure out what I didn’t get that I actually need and go buy that stuff. And - despite her expression, my mom is actually pumped to meet this lil’ lady.
- My in-laws went rogue and bought me a running stroller (without checking my registry). Ugh - I mean isn’t that what registries are for? Regardless, they somehow ended up getting me the one I would have chosen for myself (the BOB Revolution SE), so I guess once baby makes her arrival I need to start walking/jogging/running again. I actually do miss it (especially with the gorgeous weather we’ve been having recently).
- But - I don’t miss it enough to get out there and try to jog. For months (probably up until week 28), I was nauseous every day and couldn’t even fathom having my body jiggle when running (smells would make me gag, I couldn’t wear pants or skirts since the slightest pressure on my abdomen would have me feeling awful, and i was so exhausted). I’m now feeling good - but eh, I’ve gone this long without jogging, I doubt I’ll pick it up again before baby’s arrival. My twice weekly prenatal yoga sessions (which are pretty much just laying on props for an hour) will need to suffice as my form of exercise.
- I had a 34 week ultrasound yesterday and baby already weighs 5.3lbs. They’re thinking she’ll be at least 8.8 lbs at birth which scares the bejeezus out of me.
- I’m finalizing my maternity leave (which has me off for most of the summer/early fall) and we’ve narrowed down our daycare choices. Baby will be going part time (thank goodness for my mom and in-laws who will each tackle one day per week) but even 3 day per week care is astronomically expensive. And of course, my loving husband just raves about the most costly one. I’m trying to be a bit more impartial - ‘cause at 16 weeks does baby really need baby yoga, sign language or Spanish immersion?
- The nursery is coming along - we don’t have a theme per se, I’ve just filled it with overwhelmingly cute stuff. Pics to come, promise.
- I’m celebrating two years at work this week, and I can honestly say that changing jobs was for the best. My commute isn’t that fun (it typically takes 45 minutes to an hour each way), but the job is pretty stress free (especially in comparison to other jobs I’ve had) and the company stability has done wonders for my work/life balance.
tl:dr: Things are good. I’m growing a giant (healthy!) baby who I’m super pumped to meet in six weeks. I’m feeling pretty calm (surprisingly!) and almost like an adult. Almost.
My Easter weekend was filled with lots of family time, too much food, bunny ears (even the dogs got in on the action!), bright lipstick and maxi skirts (which are the most amazing thing to wear while pregnant!), catching up with a friend I haven’t seen in far too long, and a dog-centric Easter egg hunt organized by my sister.
It wasn’t all play though - we emptied all our upstairs rooms and closets in preparation for having our
floors refinished this week. Our living and dining rooms are packed to the brim with furniture, clothes, and the miscellaneous stuff we keep hoarding (I honestly was unaware of how many rolls of wrapping paper I own. But it’ll all get used, right?) I sorted bags and bags of baby clothes - most with tags from friends and neighbors and I’m pretty sure my heart melted from cute overload (and all the baby tutus and jeggings and headbands and leopard print sweaters!)
Homeownership is a pain and nesting is real, you guys. But I’m so glad this weekend was a wonderful balance of work and play - and I’m
feeling pretty darn lucky to bring a baby into this crazy little world of mine.
Happy Sunday night, y’all.
Last weekend was filled with fall-related activities in Lancaster County, PA, like spending time visiting farmer’s markets and antique stores, picking out the perfect pumpkin to adorn my doorstep, eating at a giant buffet (with 200 feet of food!), and going to a QVC outlet (although I’m not obsessed with TV shopping, this place was pretty fun).
I also celebrated my mother-in-law’s birthday (which had me scrawling “happy birthday” on a cake perched in my trunk in the parking lot of our local grocery store, because of course, they would be sold out of birthday cakes on a Sunday evening, when I urgently needed one).
Life lately has been hectic and shows no signs of slowing down with work travel and super-packed weekends (this weekend: a 5k beer run, a birthday celebration for my sister, and raking leaves/closing our pool since we haven’t had a chance to do this yet; next weekend: the Chicago Marathon; weekend after that: a wedding, cheering on runners at the Runner’s World Half Marathon, and a spa day; the last weekend in October: I’m a bridesmaid in a wedding - for the girl in the photo above).
But, life’s been good, so I’ll take it!
This weekend was for:
- Skipping a work karaoke party for a date with compression socks, the couch, and a too-full DVR.
- Slogging through a 20 mile run, filled with too many stops, walking breaks, and ‘Why Isn’t This Damn Run Over yet” thoughts.
- Giant beers and burgers with the husband while watching the Alabama game (my mother-in-law is from Alabama, and although she hasn’t lived there in nearly 40 years, crimson tide runs deep in their veins)
- A 5k with my mom, sister, and their dogs, benefiting a local animal shelter, where I was pulled uphill and downhill by a English Pointer that just wanted to be done.
- Brunch at my mom’s house with delicious egg sandwiches and lots and lots of coffee.
- A Jets game with the husband, where I accessorized appropriately, had a great time tailgating (more beers!) and had such good seats that I saw Mark Sanchez picking his wedgie
Themes of the weekend? Food, running, football. At least two of those are my favorite things, so yup, it was a great one!
Last weekend, I celebrated my 31st birthday with perhaps the most appropriate and my favorite gifts ever - including coming home from a super early run to find the husband sleeping with my birthday card perched upon him, this ’I Hate Running’ sweatshirt, and a new diamond ring.
The weekend was spent running lots of miles (like I said, I started my actual birthday off with an early morning run that let me clear my head and watch the sunrise, and the following day, I completed my first 20 mile training run of this marathon cycle), hanging out with some lovely friends, and spending some quality time on the couch.
I honestly cannot believe I am 31. It feels like yesterday I was 25. or 27. When someone asks my age I immediately freeze and have to do the mental math to figured it out. But in these past 31 years I’ve learned a few things which I feel inclined to share…
- Don’t cry at work. No matter how bad things are, or how mean people are being, or how uncertain the future may be, get to a conference room, a bathroom stall, or your car. Don’t shed tears at your desk. It’s not worth it.
- ”Fake it ‘till you make it” is a fine way to get through life.
- Spending money on events, trips, or travel will always be worthwhile. You get to cultivate experiences, see new things, and get away from the mundane. Travel. Do it.
- Be polite. Cut the attitude. You are not better than anyone else and you don’t know what anyone else is facing, so there’s no need to be rude.
- It may not be completely acceptable to wear leggings as pants - but dang, it’s so comfortable.
- Dry shampoo is one of life’s greatest inventions.
- Write thank you notes. Always.
- Learn to budget. Master this skill early in life and when you’re lusting over items from afar, having a sound budget will make the ‘to buy’ or ‘not to buy’ decision much easier.
- That being said, pay your bills on time. I’m super proud of my impeccable credit score, much of which is due to paying my bills on time (and having a low debt to credit ratio).
- Don’t compare yourself to others. I mean the grass is always greener, right?
- A bowl of cereal or random leftovers can make an absolutely fine dinner. But sometimes it feels really good to cook and too eat off of an actual plate (not out of a take-out container or off of a paper plate).
- Crossing items off to-do lists feels nearly as good as actually completing the task.
- Listen. Don’t always be the one talking. (My Japanese coworkers always say “Two ears, one mouth” and while it sounds silly, it’s actually a pretty wise saying.)
- A good night’s sleep can solve most problems. And when struggling to sleep, never underestimate the power of a glass of wine and Tylenol PM.
- Call your loved ones often. Reach out more often than you think is necessary.
- Green juice doesn’t taste nearly as bad as it looks and it’s a pretty easy way to make you feel like you’re getting enough fruits and veggies.
- If you don’t have time to clean the entire house, make your bed, clean the bathroom, and light some candles.
- Count your blessings. Often. Find gratitude in every day.
- The easiest way to feel like an adult? Pour yourself a glass of wine after work. On a weeknight. Just ‘cause you can.
- A blazer or a cardigan can make nearly any outfit appropriate for work.
- Compliment others. Especially when they deserve it or when they need it.
- Sign up for frequent flyer programs, membership rewards cards, and shoppers club cards. I’ve earned countless number of free flights, free meals, and have gotten so many money saving coupons out of this.
- Read more books. But watch reality TV too, if that’s your vice. Find balance in being cultured and cheesy.
- Be genuine. Whoever you are is who you are. Own it.
- Splurge on the name brand items you feel are necessary (for me it’s toilet paper, ketchup, and mascara) and save when you don’t notice the difference (sandwich bags, nail polish remover, most canned goods).
- You will never regret taking your contacts out. You will regret sleeping with them in.
- Your life is not a movie. You do not need to live it as such. (I really wish someone would have told me this when the husband and I were first dating and I thought it would be romantic to argue with him while standing on a bridge in the pouring rain. In reality, I was just drunk and sloppy and incoherent and should have just gone home.)
- That being said, have a soundtrack to your life. Have great driving songs, and gym/workout songs, and songs that make you reminisce, and songs that make you cry, and songs that make you angry, and songs that just make you feel.
- Share with others. Share your time, your knowledge, or your possessions.
- Take time to sit back and enjoy life. Don’t rush all the time. Try to find a moment of calm in every day.
“This is one more piece of advice I have for you:
don’t get impatient.
Even if things are so tangled up you can’t do anything,
don’t get desperate or blow a fuse
and start yanking on one particular thread
before it’s ready to come undone.
You have to figure it’s going to be a long process
and that you’ll work on things slowly, one at a time.”
— Haruki Murakami
Much needed advice right now.
Jeff and I are celebrating our second wedding anniversary today. Woo hoo! Our wedding day was a blur (fueled by too much champagne and/or whiskey and a flood of emotions), but for real, time has flown. I always wish I could slow down time and savor every moment, because even though we have our challenges, life is pretty dang good with the husband. He’s nearly the opposite of me in many ways (level headed, wants to see the best in people, and so not a planner), but together we make a pretty awesome team. He’s my other half, my sounding board, and my biggest cheerleader. He’s mine and I’m so thankful for that.
when you meet someone new, treat that person as a friend. assume he or she is a winner and will become a positive force in your life. most people wait for others to prove their value. give them the benefit of the doubt from the start. occasionally you will be disappointed, but your network will broaden rapidly if you follow this path.
I haven’t been in the office since last Wednesday (yay for four day weekends!) - so it’s going to take some extra caffeine to put a pep in my step and to help me power through today.
This weekend was great since I:
- Spectated a local four mile race which inspired me to pick up the pace on my run Thursday morning
- Went kayaking with my husband and the in-laws and I actually enjoyed myself (surprising - since I’m not a fan of large bodies of water with any sort of marine life)
- Had my mom over for and impromptu BBQ and sat outside on the porch for hours
- Ran 10mi with a friend who struggled through the route - and then ran 3mi more to finish my long run (all before 10am on Friday!)
- Took some great naps (both on the hammock and on the couch)
- Tackled some major house/yard projects - like cleaning the garage, tearing down an old shed (and filling a dumpster with all it’s contents), putting my closet back together (it was torn apart a few months ago, when our roof leaked and the roofer needed access to our attic), and starting to reupholster our dining room chairs
- Spending time in the pool and poolside (the pups even came in for awhile!)
- Going to a picnic at my mom’s house with my sister (and her boyfriend), the grandparents, and the in-laws
- Doing yoga in my bathing suit
I hope you had an enjoyable weekend. I’m already making plans for the next one!
Guys, I am certifiably a Bag Lady.
In the trunk of my car this morning, there were no less than 6 bags (my purse, my bag for showering at the gym, my work bag - which carries my laptop and misc. folders/work I brought home last night, my Camelbak - which I needed on my run this morning, my bag for yoga tonight, and my lunch bag).
A friend and I met at the gym for some pre-work miles and I showered there before heading out, but man - not going home first makes me have to schlep around even more stuff!